From daddy issues, lost friendships to dating young and going through the growth of that etc….I’ve realized lately that I’ve been holding on to some stuff that isn’t serving me. Some things that aren’t allowing me to fully move forward.
“You realize that our mistrust of the future makes it hard to give up the past.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor
I realized that the negative things we go thru are a necessary part of life. They are a part of learning and growing and as important it is that we learn and grow from it, it is also important that we let go of any fear and anxiety that it can leave behind.
We can’t stay stuck in a state of what if because the truth is life is bound to keep happening.
I’ve been doing a lot of self-exploration and growth to let go of my past.
I wanted to share a few things that have and that is helping me let go and essentially let God so I can live free from the chains that the past has held on me.
- Prayer & time with God- I made a pact with myself that before I start my day or touch my phone I will talk to Jesus. I admit I was guilty of opening my eyes, turning off my alarm and hopping right on Instagram and Facebook. It was such a taxing way to start my day. Instantly starting from a place of playing catch up and feeling less than versus starting with God and having him guide my thoughts and steps. Thru prayer, I ask him daily to break chains that are holding me and to renew my heart and spirit. Talking to Jesus all day every day has changed my life.
- Finding my passion and living in purpose- Before I felt like I had a purpose on this earth and was living in it, I had a lot of idle time on my hands. The devil had a field day on me. Many of them. I had nothing much going for me on a daily so I thrived or a lack thereof, on my past. I was literally stuck. So now I wake up with intention and ambition and my focus is on things that fill me up so there’s way less room for my past to haunt me.
- Setting goals- This is a by-product of living in my purpose. Setting goals that align with my heart’s desires helps me stay in the future. I’m all for being present but I’m an advocate of looking forward to the future and it keeps you going and growing. When I have things I’m looking towards in my future I have way less time to dwell on the past.
- Journaling- Journaling is not an easy thing for me to do. It’s hard for me to sit still and just write but when I do it is so therapeutic. It allows me to dump my brain and release my emotions. I feel like I let go of so much when I write.
- Removing triggers- I had to learn what would trigger me to go into the past. It was random things like certain smells and definitely music. This was when I started listening to the gospel and just letting it fill my spirit. I love secular music and especially trap music, but when I get too engulfed in it I start to take the lyrics to heart and it triggers me. Certain people and things have to go too sometimes. Just be aware of what/who is serving you and what/who brings you negative energy in your life and purge.
We all have a past. And I believe it was exactly what it needed to be to mold us into who we are.
May we never let the past rob us of showing up for the present us. After all, The World Needs YOU!
“We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.”